Do you use affirmations? Have you used them in the past? For many of the clients I have and do coach they have either:
- Heard of them
- Tried them out for a few days
- Lasted a few months
- Had hit and miss results
Has it been the same for you? Well, I am here to rectify that! Did you know that there is a Secret formula to using affirmations successfully?
I have been using affirmations in the traditional sense since 2007.
However, I have used a form of affirmations since around the age of maybe even 10 years old. At that time I just didn’t know they were called affirmations. For me it was just positive thinking.
It wasn’t something I really gave any conscious thought to. That’s one of the blissful parts about being a child, you don’t put labels on things or even really think about it, it’s just something you do.
Before I share my Affirmation Formula with you lets look at what an affirmation is.
What is an Affirmation?
A dictionary definition defines it as:-
The action or process of affirming something.
Just thinking of that statement you may also then wonder, well what is ‘affirming’? The dictionary meaning is:- to state emphatically or publicly.
This statement alone should give rise to the notion that this is not something to be done half heartedly!
How to Put an Affirmation Together
You may not have given much thought into how you put your affirmations together. Or even to the ones you read out from others. But as I mentioned before there is an Affirmation Formula that increases your affirmation success.
Before putting an affirmation together there are two categories to consider.
The category of gain and the category of release. In life there are only ever really two categories when we consider life and it’s wondrous experiences. Those we wish to have (ie gain) and those we wish to avoid (ie release).
Now we have an understanding that an affirmation is to either gain something or to release something it makes it a little easier to start.
Step 1. What do you want? Gain.
On the surface this may seem such an easy question to ask. Yet, many clients I work with and have worked with are great at telling me what they don’t want but struggle on verbalising and feeling what it is they do want.
We often put a limitation on a want. We may say to ourselves “I would like a property in a warm climate, overlooking the sea with a swimming pool in the garden.” Almost immediately the logical side of our brain starts to interfere. Showing you that this is way above your current capability and starts to try to get you to think ‘logically’ about how that is going to happen.
The same process happens if you were to say; “I would like to earn a million pounds this year; or find the man/woman of my dreams; or travel to a new country every 2 months…. or fill in the blank to your desire(s).
“An affirmation is not about what you can achieve now ~ it is what you would like to achieve.”
For your gain affirmations, I would like you to imagine, without limitation. After all why limit? If the mind can achieve what it perceives then help it to perceive your highest and wildest desires.
Step 2. Positive Context
We have established that an affirmation for gain has no limits. To ensure it is successful it also needs to be stated in Positive way or context.
Step 3. Short and Sweet
Short and Sweet really is best, mainly as even though you may read your affirmations from a card, piece of paper, journal etc…. It is easier for the brain to digest a few lines than a few paragraphs.
Step 4. Present Tense
Another distinction of writing a good affirmation is writing it in the present tense. As if you have it now, adding gratitude also helps, (more on Gratitude in a future post).
Gain Affirmation Examples
This first example is one from my 21 day Positive Intention Course which includes a short 3 minute meditation. The combination of affirmations and meditation or mindfulness has amazing and very powerful benefits.
The second example is a one that has resonated with so many and is from my affirmation of the week series. As you can see it also meets the criteria mentioned.
- It’s Positive
- Short and Sweet
- In the Present Tense
Step 1.1 What do you want to let go off? Release
These affirmations work similarly except they are about letting go. Releasing something that is holding you back.
Release Affirmation Examples
Personally I use release affirmations sparingly. However, if you are just starting out with affirmations or even personal development then you may have a lot you wish to release and let go of. If so, this is a wonderful way of helping you to achieve that. The next step is another invaluable lesson I learnt that transformed my affirmations completely.
Step 5. When to Say your Affirmations – Timing
Many people say their affirmations when they remember. For some it may be in the morning, afternoon, evening. To be fair any time is better than no time!
However, there is a way to make your affirmations even more successful. The next secret step to my formula is when to use gain or release affirmations to ensure maximum effectiveness.
The formula is all to do with the moon. In particular the cycle of the moon. If the moon is waxing that is the time to say your Gain Affirmations and if the moon is waning then that is the time for your Release Affirmations.
So to recap on the Affirmation Formula;
- Gain or Release
- Short and Sweet
- Present Tense
- Waxing Moon for Gain
- Waning Moon for Release
I understand that this can be a lot to take in and it’s not always convenient to pop back and re-read the post. And as I would like to give you as much opportunity for success as possible I have created my Affirmation Formula Free Gift to make it easier for you.
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I would love to here how you get on with the my Affirmation formula so do leave me a comment below and if you have a favourite affirmation then please do share.
Love, Light and Blessings